The hacks for a successful second hand find

It’s established by now that thrifting and second-hand/consignment/vintage purchases are the most tangible practices to convert to a more sustainable life and wardrobe.

Now let’s do it right.

SOME GROUND RULES

Some people still frown upon buying used clothes with the preconception that they are dirty, smell of mothballs, and possibly previously worn by a now deceased person. And I get it, there’s nothing more disheartening than people still believing that climate change is a hoax when we are on the precipice of a catastrophe. However, guilting people into change or pointing fingers only creates more division, polarization, and echo chambers of us vs. them. So what to do instead with the awareness of unsanitary work conditions, labor exploitation, wage theft, materials toxicity, excessive carbon emissions, 1.5 C threshold? Let’s put things into perspective: we cannot pretend that everybody is as preoccupied or interested in change, but it takes one, one step, one person, one thought in one person’s mind.

Is there such a thing as overconsumption of thrifted clothes?

Short answer: yes.

You can end up hoarding thrifted clothes you don’t have time to wear, will not grow attached to, and will eventually not wear, or not wear enough to justify even the small price you paid. You can still fall for shopping or thrifting addiction as a form of compensatory reward. After all, who would resist the deal sweetened by a satisfied conscience of buying second-hand?

It takes time and you must enjoy the process, we have grown used to the immediate gratification of a shopping cart.

On average we wear 30% of our wardrobe at any given time, which means that you can switch closets between seasons, rotate hangers, fold, and play hide and seek, it doesn’t matter: we own too much.

KNOW YOUR STYLE

Or you’ll fall for trends, micro-trends or -cores that will distract you, make you regret your decisions, and, worse, disappoint you. Know your closet, analyze it, find the holes as well as what you have in excess, what you have in multiples and keep buying but don’t wear (red flag).

LASER FOCUS

One item at a time, know what you are fishing for that day or needs a refresh. Be patient and strategic, word to the wise? Look for cashmere or coats in the summer when the best deals are available

Check material composition and avoid like pestilence polyester in any percentage. As for natural materials, choose 100% cotton, wool, cashmere, silk, linen, hemp, and angora.


Be creative and open-minded

Because you’ll never find exactly what you saw on Vogue Runway or in a magazine (I still read printed magazines) or promoted by an influencer, if you are into vintage, sizes, seams, cuts, and fabrics play an extra role, if you want shorts, go to the man dress pants section, trust me.

set a budget

Thrift stores have meager prices, but if you haul it becomes burdening. Go with cash only and that’ll settle it, like a kid with an allowance. When you search on TRR, VC or Thredup you are subject to that add-to-cart temptation but you can set a personal rule (which I did and, promise, it works) only buy something after having sold something.

Do short and sporadic visits

Use your lunchtime so you’ll have restrained time and you’ll concentrate on what you are looking for, go to that section and remember, that man tailoring is way better: blazers and pants especially.

Know a good tailor or seamstress

because possibly anything you buy will have to be altered, mended, hemmed, shortened.

ENJOY

not all the times you’ll find something, and that’s perfectly fine.

let's not be perfect

We have binged in a random series of RHBH from 2016 and the amount of $ and products wasted in unnecessary glam squads was nauseating.


My mutinous self blossomed like a paperwhite in the spring.



  • There are two chapters in the book dedicated dive-in style to what not to do to dress/live/eat the Italian way: “Don’t take yourself too seriously” and “You don’t owe pretty to anyone”.

There isn’t a right or wrong way for being not perfect, what is perfect for you could be imperfect for me. Many things have changed in the last two years that I feel I owe you some details on how to not be perfect and happily ever after.


So to a year of:

no to flat stomach and yes to an overload of drapes;

imperfect smokey eye;

attempting at finding the perfect pose for a selfie/hating to pose and take a picture of yourself;

avoiding t-shirts loaded with feminist messages;

rewearing staples in different looks du jour, instead of repeating outfits;

deliberately not matching colors, but insisting on navy blue and black together;

maintaining the obsolete iPhone 7 alive and no Air Pods;

wearing stripes;

  • aiming at preserving a certain mental equilibrium and taking breaks;

  • NOT accepting the new state of being “pandemic fine”-noun-a state of being in which you are employed and healthy during a pandemic but also tired and depressed and feel like trash all the time;

  • saying NO with no regrets or FOMO;

  • shielding yourself from anxiety-provoking news;

  • abundance of sparkle and a cig here and there, absence of flip flops, flannel pajamas;

  • banned words: girlboss, hustle, “you can do it”;

  • being single and OK with it;

  • ignoring chromotherapy or whatever is called that thing that gives you a wheel of colors you should wear;

  • not buying anything new, again. Turns out in 2021 I was able to manage a full overhaul of my wardrobe after I realized my body had changed and there was no going back, but I had also committed to the no new clothes. I kept the promise with second-hand apps. my seamstress and hand-me-downs;

  • delete/eliminate/ignore toxic people/relationships/other people’s opinions/phone contacts;

  • no flip-flops allowed or furry slides.